In our circle, it’s easy to distinguish true friends, acquaintances, and others. But deep down, we may wonder if all these people are sincere. Unfortunately, fake relationships are quite common. Differentiating between someone genuinely kind and someone pretending to be can be challenging at times.
Recognizing a fake person allows you to remove them from your life. These toxic personalities tend to be kind only for their own benefit – to manipulate, belittle, or obtain something specific from you. While it’s difficult to uncover hidden intentions, there are signs that do not deceive.
Words and actions don’t match
False kindness can be quickly detected by comparing someone’s words to their actions. It’s an effective and rapid way to determine who your true friends are. If someone genuinely cares about you and what happens to you, they’ll demonstrate it through concrete actions and not just empty promises or encouraging words.
They love to attract attention
Toxic individuals love being at the center of attention. They’ll do anything to make a good impression, tell grand stories, and monopolize the conversation. In contrast, authentic people know how to wait their turn to speak or be acknowledged.
An avalanche of compliments
Beware of people who are incapable of criticizing you. True friends aren’t just the ones you have fun with and who laugh at your jokes. They’re also the ones who help you see certain aspects of yourself that you may be unaware of, and that are important. Moreover, constant compliments can become tiresome. No one is perfect, and if someone is unable to see your flaws even when they’re right in front of them, it’s possible their main motivation for being by your side is far from genuine interest, friendship, or love.
They make promises they won’t keep
An authentic person will do their best to fulfill their commitments, which is why they’ll refrain from making empty promises without thinking. A fake person will easily make promises they won’t follow through on.
Lack of reciprocity in sharing personal matters
For trust to exist in a relationship, there needs to be reciprocity in sharing personal matters. If someone keeps interrogating you about your life, pretending to have a great interest in it, but when you ask them about their own feelings, they refuse to open up emotionally, be cautious. It could be a sign of excessive kindness, which is suspicious.
